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A model representing the daughter
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My dad is divorcing his wife of 17 years because she throw my food away and I couldn’t be more happy.
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Two models representing the stepmother and stepdaughter
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The first thing that caught my attention was how long it took the father to admit his spouse might be at fault. He had to see it on camera to even begin to believe she was doing something wrong. I guess nobody wants to believe their partner is evil, and hence his prior unwillingness to open himself up to the possibility. I even believe there was some manipulation at play there. Sadly, the daughter was made to feel crazy for a lot of time before things were clarified.
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Now, back to what we were wondering: Why would somebody do something like that? I think for some people, a child your partner had with someone else might be unconsciously perceived as a threat, or at least as living proof your partner had a life before you and with it a family project; all that can spark feelings of deep jealousy. What’s interesting in the story is that the stepmom’s behaviour isn’t overtly violent. It’s small, covert, and deniable. It appears to be pointed directly at the stepson’s sense of being at home. A bit like saying: ‘You are not secure here, your safety can be disrupted at any moment’, although it clearly isn’t a healthy way of communicating anything and the message is twisted in itself. If she were really in tune with her feelings and an assertive person overall, she would try to talk to everyone and state what she feels uncomfortable with, and where she wants to arrive with the family in the future. -
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Slowly kicking the daughter out with twisted tactics was not her best bet, and in the end, it cost her her marriage. For the father, it probably wasn’t easy to discover his lifelong partner had this inside, but reality is always better than fantasy, and some energies are best to be pushed away. I sincerely wish this family is ok after the rotten apple was thrown out of the barrel.
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